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5 Tips
for Solving Marital Money Issues
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Whether
you and your spouse both work
outside of the home, or one of you stays home with the children,
it’s easy for one person to feel out of the financial
picture.
It’s important in a marriage to feel equal to your partner,
on
all levels of the playing field. Even if you don’t feel
“stuck”, it’s important for couples to
communicate
openly about their financial situation, and try to better it
together.
Most
marriages have their financial ups and
downs. It can truly be a test to your relationship with your partner in
dealing with the downs in particular. Here are some tips to help you
deal with these situations in the quickest and calmest way possible.
1.) Pick
the Right Time. Find a non
stress time to sit down and have a discussion with your partner. Me and
my husband love to go on evenings out, because it gives us a chance to
discuss important issues in a non stress environment. If you must stay
home, make sure the kids are not present during the conversation.
2.) Come
Prepared. Write down the
matters you have been thinking about beforehand so that you can stay on
track during your discussion.
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3.) Don’t
Get Emotional. Avoid
personal attacks towards your spouse. Use “I”
instead of
“you” when speaking. Don’t be
argumentative and state
how you feel. Don’t point fingers, and don’t start
a fight.
4.) Take
Turns. Common courtesy will
help you achieve your goals. Feeling equal to your partner will come
with a general respect between you and your partner.
5.) Make a Plan. Discuss the situation and future plans with
your
spouse. Make sure you have a basic budget in place and discuss you and
your partner’s vital steps in your financial future. Compile
a
money to-do list and check your progress often.
Remember
the love you have for each other
during the conversation, and listen.
Also to
what your partner has to say during
the discussion. If it seems to be a bad time in general to talk about
it, remember that there will be another opportunity to let your partner
know how you feel. Let it go, and pick a better time in the future.
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